BEING A LIKEABLE PERSON

[CROWN COUNCIL]

Of course you want to be a likeable person. One of the important ways to achieve that goal is to make a good first impression. The psychologists maintain that the first impression someone has seems to dominate the way he/she views that person permanently. That being the case, it is wise to be conscious of the fact that words, actions, facial expressions and body language all send subtle messages without our even realizing that we are doing it.

All this being the case, here are some methods recommended by the communication specialists for making a great first impression:

1. Use a slow sincere smile when you meet someone. The emphasis is on the “slow” because an instantaneous full-scale smile usually comes off as being a phoney put on.

2. Make and keep strong eye contact. If this doesn’t come naturally try identifying specific characteristics about a new acquaintance such as eye color, the length of eye lashes, and how often they blink.
3. Stand with one foot slightly forward of the other with most of your weight on the forward foot. This suggests you are energetic and interested in the person to whom you are speaking.
4. When you shake hands, very gently touch the other person’s wrist while aiming for the spot where you would take a pulse. This tends to foster a feeling of warmth and closeness.

5. Have a supply of conversation starters ready for all types of acquaintances. Inquire about the person’s occupation, family, sports interest. For couples, how the two met is a good starter.

6. Nod slowly while people respond, sending a message of acceptance and encouragement.

7. Listen for words that suggest people’s interests and explore those areas.

This is a start and provides avenues for further exploration. Every new friend adds something to yourself and makes you a more likeable person.

Gregory B. Anderson–director